Webster dictionary defines insecurity as: not confident about yourself or your ability to do things well: nervous and uncomfortable. One of my friends defines insecurity as: A flawed and jealous person that needs to get out their feelings. What makes an individual insecure? What makes a person worry? What makes a person jealous and angry? So many questions that all point back to that one word, Insecurity.
An insecure person is usually controlling in a relationship, they get jealous and question the littlest things a person may do and believe it or not they weren’t born that way. Insecurity usually is triggered within a person who may have been hurt in the past and its sometimes people that feel they aren’t worthy of being with the person they currently have; and even sometimes its because they are guilty of other things they are doing. At onetime or another we have all been guilty of being insecure whether it was for a brief moment or currently. Jay-Z once said “Jealousy is a weak emotion” and thats true but sometimes because of a persons past they are never the same again, even if it’s going into a new relationship.
Heres a few suggestions for my insecure people:
1.Stop confusing imagination and reality ( Making stuff up and believing it is a sure way to Self-torment)
2. Give the relationship room to breathe ( When you plant a seed to grow, you give it time to develop, Give your relationship air and time to develop.)
3.Quit mind reading ( Quit worrying what your partner is thinking, thats a quick way to anxiety people.
4. Comparing ( Quit comparing current relationships to past relationships)
5.Focus on the Good ( Self explanatory)
If you follow these steps and add God above all, You’ll be fine but if you stay insecure your relationship just may walk out the door.
Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.