Hook and Sink ( Friends that Hook-up)

Ive been working on this post for a while. Ive interviewed a professor, some friends of both sexes and the things I’m about to share with you about hooking up with a friend will amaze you. Sometimes things happen, Your single, they’re single and with intentions with the right moment, it just happens.

I talked to a good friend of mine over lunch the other day to pick his brain knowing he’s been in this situation. Chris was telling me hooking up with a single female friend when you are single can be an ongoing thing. When he was in college he had a female friend and they were great around each other. At one point they both were in relationships but their significant others understood the friendship and it was just that…Afterwards was whole different story. Chris went back to tell a story where he said they both were in ” Slumps” and  somehow it came up in a conversation and it became a regular thing until-She caught feelings. Unfortunately things became so awkward they eventually avoided each other for life.

Now Sarah, one of my good female friends ( No we never hooked up) told me about one of her friends and the level it went too. Sarah was friends with a guy she met while interning for a few years after college. She said one day it just happened and they both explained it wouldn’t go past the sex. Shortly after a few times Sarah noticed the jealousy phase when she would go out with other guys or guys would inquire to him about her. She saw the Red flags but kept blowing it off. Sarah is now married and her and the guy are still friends. If you’re wondering, Her husband knows.

To me and honestly having been around people in the situation the outcomes are pretty much the same. The friend gets attached or strung and eventually want more. Can you really just hook up with a friend-No! Unless you’re willing to lose that friendship and want a lifetime of awkwardness then go for it. Todd said ” If the two are single, If the curiosity is there, go for it. But the two people involved just have to be mature enough to handle what comes after. Be it Good or bad.” Could you categorize a friend as a friend with benefits? I guess if it becomes a regular thing, but what kind of person does that make you in the eyes of others? Fast, No Standards? So many ways to take  this topic which makes it tricky. A Michigan State study found that 10 percent of Friends with benefits arrangements ends in real romantic relationships. But thats not all-26 percent of Friends with benefits actually ended in a wrecked relationship, So 74 percent of Friends with Benefits relationships DONT destroy the friendship. Most people that enter the Friends with benefits or hook up with a friend dont want a relationship but have sexual needs. So they figure by sleeping or hooking up with a friend its safer than hooking up with a stranger.

Ultimately, if  you hook up with a friend or become Friends with Benefits its doomed for a downfall. One of you two will want more or will at some point so if thats the case just make it clear. Now if you’re one that doesn’t want things to upgrade and the other doesn’t as well, then you may have something…for now.

 

Until next time, Don’t bang your friends…

– Trell

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Calm, Cool and Collective. Over the years I have seeked, gained and gave knowledge on relationships. By far relationships as young adults are the stepping stones to the great wonders that lie in each of our future. I just share my knowledge and experiences with you.

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