The Good Girl Still does Exist

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The Perfect Boyfriend doesn’t Drink, Doesn’t Smoke and Doesn’t Exist. The Good Girl does though, very few, but they are out there its just hard to find them.  I say I’ve probably dated one in my years and the others had the looks to be Good. Anyway, the signs are there. Good Girls often talk about meeting Mr. Right, Us Guys don’t talk about the same thing. Generally men can forgive a lot of bad character points as long as the girl is smoking hot. However, there comes a time when we want a girlfriend, a good quality girl who we can have a deeper connection with. Assuming we may still go to bars and clubs, how can we find this kind of Girl.

Some Qualities of a Good Girl:

Looks: Well taken care of, fashionable.  3 hours getting ready, brand named clothes, tons of accessories and jewelry equals at least high maintenance and sometimes trouble. Think about it, while she is spending 3 hours getting ready, a good quality girl is reading a book, painting, studying for a class, or otherwise improving herself for you or life’s wonders.  The time taken to get ready means her looks are very important , This may be her only and big asset. What others think of her is probably also important which means she might have self-esteem and confidence issues and so need to be chatted up by lots of men to give her an ego boost. For Some of course not all.

My thought of a girl is fashionable without over-branding, takes 45 minutes to get ready, and has a light dusting of make-up at most.

The Way she acts:  The amount of drink a girl has can be a factor, if she does get drunk and doesn’t have control you wouldn’t want to date her. Think about whether you could sleep at night if she was out with her friends doing this! She should like the club for dancing, being sociable, but not the bad aspects that lead to the usual party girl.

 Sociable:Interactions with Men The rule here is that the harder to get she is, the better she will be for you. You want a girl to be fussy. If she will let any guy:-Buy her a drink. – Dance with her. – Talk to her for more than a minute then she has the potential to cheat on you. When you approach, it would be better if she didn’t open up to you or kiss you until you had a connection, something unique that she couldn’t have with just any guy.I hope this helps you find the right kind of girl. Remember, if you are looking for a good time, the party girls characteristics will be in tomorrows Blog, but until then…

Take care of yourself and each other.

-Trell

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Signs She’s not into you Bro

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Ok, So you’ve been chasing that certain girl for months, weeks and maybe days. She doesn’t call, she flirts with other guys, and you still continue to hope that maybe she’ll come around. How do you know when to finally give up?

When it comes to reading women signals, lets just say the the indicators are very different in many ways. As a man we sometimes give off when we are not interested although we may give signs and false alarms that we are. Im about to give you 7 signs that shows she isn’t into you and ladies if I’m wrong please feel free to tell me. I conclude after this list that any man should be able to quickly determine if they should continue their pursuit or walk away with their manhood.

1. She says she not ready to be in a relationship

Whelp, the classic, Women use this when they feel like they have nowhere to go by someone they are not interested in. Its pure, requires no cooking and leaves no room for an argument. But if a woman says this, what she really means is that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. For whatever reason, she doesn’t see you as relationship material for her, so don’t stay hoping she changes her mind someday. If she does get in a relationship someday, it wont be with you Bro.

2. You Call and text, and/or she doesn’t return your calls or text

Chill: She may be avoiding you homie. And if she isn’t avoiding you, you are not on her mind and she actually forgot. Either way, this pretty much says that she has less interest in you and doesn’t care to actively seek out your company.

Heres a rule: If she doesn’t return your first call or text, call a second time and don’t send a question mark text, as she may be playing hard to get. If she doesn’t return your second call, you can rightly conclude she’s not into you. ( Do give some time in between, women do have lives too, She should call you once for every 3 times you call.)

3. She looks the other way when you see her and avoids physical contact

Obvious one but some guys are too thirsty to actually catch this.  If she is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you and she WILL make eye contact. If she looks away every now and then she doesn’t want to lead you on and having to turn down your advances later on. Take the sign and move on playa.

4. She mentions other guys she finds attractive

No, she’s not making you jealous Lol-Unless we are dealing with the classic Ex Girlfriend, a situation that belongs in another category.  Most likely though, you are in the ” Friend Zone”  Which means you are just like one of the girlfriends  that she shares thoughts with.

5. She is always vague about plans with you

If she really wants to see you, she’ll make firm plans. If she doesn’t want to see you or doesn’t care either way, you can be sure she’s not into you. If she is vague then she is neutral about being in your company or even worse, she doesn’t want to commit in case something better comes up. Damn

6. She regularly cancels plans

Let me just say it: You are the second choice guy, the ” just in case she doesn’t have anything better to do” guy. It is certainly fair to cancel plans occasionally for a legit reason, but if she bails consistently, ditch her, even as a friend. If she does this, it not only shows that she’s not interested, but she holds little respect for you man. Move on quickly!

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If she shows any of these signs, it doesn’t do good for your cause. If she exhibits two out of three, you can be certain your not it. I know from experience that a crush can be a big blow to ones self esteem. Cut your losses and move on, Repeat this saying until it stays with you, She’s not into you Move one.

Until next time, Take care of yourself and each other

-Trell

Booty Call Breakdown

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Its that time of the night, The Last song plays, the clubs are closing, and the only thing on his and her mind is a BOOTY CALL. Lets Break down the different types you’ll be hitting up:

The 3AM Booty Call, The Out-of-your league Booty Call, The Generous Booty Call, The Holiday Break Booty Call, The Spring Break ” Met you at the Beach Bar” Booty Call, The Back-burner Booty Call, The No Strings Attached Booty Call, The Desperate Last Minute Booty Call, The Freshman Year One-Night Stand Booty Call, The Co-Worker Booty Call

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The booty call; every man and woman has heard about it and virtually every one loves it. The problem with it, however, is its fragility. You can have it today and it can be gone tomorrow, all depending on how you behave.

Most people don’t know how to get a membership and maintain it for as long as possible. The main reason is because most of them don’t understand that there are a few rules that must be followed in order to prevent themselves from getting the boot instead of the call. Now, You have your Red Flags behind Booty Calls, the most important being how close you become and what once was a Booty Call becomes either a relationship or Feelings get caught; either by her or him. Either way its moments can be good and everyone at some point has been there or even thought about it. What if a man doesn’t have an ex Girlfriend around? Or what if a Girl doesn’t have an ex Boyfriend around?  Not to worry, some women will completely ignore their ex-boyfriends just like Guys will do the same with their Ex Girlfriends especially if the relationship ended on a sour note. One female friend of mine said “Girls feel that in situations like these, physical contact with the ex will only make things more complicated and confusing.”

Always remember the Proper manners if you’re into the Booty Call, Some Women need guilt-free access and guaranteed results. Some Guys just need…One night.  So remember Ladies and Gents, when it’s late at night and they pick up the phone, you want to make sure they have you on speed dial. The only way that will happen is if you fully understand the proper booty call etiquette. Now let me say this the Booty Call does not symbolize everyone and not every guy and girl are into being or having a Booty Call,  but for the ones that are, Go forth and Bootify.

Until tomorrow, Take care of yourself and Each other.

– Trell

Why Chilvary is Dead

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Ever remember in Movies when the guy taking the girl out to dinner would seat her at the dinner table? Ok what about when a guy would open the car door for the lady? Two things you rarely see anymore and why is that?  8 out of 10 Americans today say that women are treated with less chivalry than in the past which can be true in some instances but not all. Over and Over I have heard the quote “ Chivalry is dead”. But is it really? Isn’t it possible, that like most things in today’s society, a guy’s idea of chivalry is just a little bit different? What does Chilvary look like today.

Chivalry ties in and impacts in so many ways. Its kind of like the get what you give theory. You treat your woman like a lady, respect her, open her doors, act like a gentleman, make her feel beautiful and make her lose any insecurities about herself, then in return you will indeed get a beautiful woman who is proud of herself and her man who is confident, loving and will try to please him in any way. You take a man who treats his woman the opposite, and he will receive the opposite type of woman.  Now let me say this while its on my chest to women, there are certain things you cant do or present yourself where a male wouldn’t even THINK about making you the it girl or the one night girl. Chivalry being dead is perfectly a woman’s fault too and here is one of the reasons why.

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Women do not expect to meet the “ one” at a Frat party while you’re dancing to “ Back that Ass up”.  No guy is going to come at you on his white Stallion saying the words “ She’s Classy, strong willed, I respect her, I should buy her a drink.”

He is thinking “ I’m going to get her in my bed and make her take the walk of shame in the morning.”

This is the first Blog to many as I anticipate the finishing of my book.

-Take Care of yourself and each other

Trell