New Year, New Me BS

 

 

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First off its been waaaaaay too long guys and my deepest apologies. After emails and friends pushing me to get back to writing here we are. I hope you like the new site, upgrades and new domain: http://www.montrellwrites.com 

Now….

To the topic…

Im pretty sure you’ve heard it, seen it written, and regretted even asking someone their new years resolution. They’re either over weight, have a drinking problem or addicted to hot pockets and want to change that habit or problem for the new year. The truth is they’ve had that problem for years and use every excuse to keep doing it. The other day I was having lunch with a good friend of mine and he was telling me that he wanted to change something for the new year. Todd was an old friend from school and had been married for about 2 years now. The thing about Todd is his wife was a virgin before they got married ( So she says) and Todd thought that was the most sexiest thing ever at the time. Although I swore to Todd I’ve seen her at numerous frat parties passed out and encountered her on several occasions taking the “Walk of Shame” from a DT Bar managers Apt 3 times a week he didn’t believe me. Anyway, Todd wanted to do something special for the new year, spice up their sex life. When Todd told me this my first response was you guys are already where you have to spice it up?!? ” She’s like the Oprah of Sex” he says LOL. Now don’t get me wrong readers, Sex is important in any relationship but sometimes there are signs if you need to spice things up early, We’ll talk about that some other time.

Back to Todd..

Todd had an idea that he would take a trip to Amsterdam with his wife to learn new “trades”. At first I was like this guy is crazy then I started to ask him if work was ok? Was his marriage going good? All because his idea sounded like the dumbest idea ever. Ultimately he was set on it and he was making plans for the trip as we spoke. Now, there was no point to tell that story but to tell you readers that a new years resolution should be about something that needs to change in YOUR personal life. Todd’s my boy but sometimes the sign may not be the spark but may be another matter. Every year people start that New year New me BS and it never changes. Goals, strategies, faith in what you want to do year in and year out is what your mind should be set on. Another thing, don’t try to push or convince someone of what you think their goals should be. If you’re in a relationship, mutual goals is ok but be more focused on self goals first. My grandmother always said if you can’t fix things in your own life don’t expect to fix things in a relationship with someone. Often times we view temporary things in our life that doesn’t require that much attention but we get so set in our ways and so caught up that we lose focus of the BIGGER picture. In the long run, what you change about yourself now, everyday and work on that will ultimately top what you do just for a year. Be a Long term change, not a Short term change for the good. Every year should be a mild cleanup from what you’ve already accomplished.

 

Until next time, make this year a good year and stay away from….Never-mind.

 

-Trell

 

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The Good Girl Still does Exist

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The Perfect Boyfriend doesn’t Drink, Doesn’t Smoke and Doesn’t Exist. The Good Girl does though, very few, but they are out there its just hard to find them.  I say I’ve probably dated one in my years and the others had the looks to be Good. Anyway, the signs are there. Good Girls often talk about meeting Mr. Right, Us Guys don’t talk about the same thing. Generally men can forgive a lot of bad character points as long as the girl is smoking hot. However, there comes a time when we want a girlfriend, a good quality girl who we can have a deeper connection with. Assuming we may still go to bars and clubs, how can we find this kind of Girl.

Some Qualities of a Good Girl:

Looks: Well taken care of, fashionable.  3 hours getting ready, brand named clothes, tons of accessories and jewelry equals at least high maintenance and sometimes trouble. Think about it, while she is spending 3 hours getting ready, a good quality girl is reading a book, painting, studying for a class, or otherwise improving herself for you or life’s wonders.  The time taken to get ready means her looks are very important , This may be her only and big asset. What others think of her is probably also important which means she might have self-esteem and confidence issues and so need to be chatted up by lots of men to give her an ego boost. For Some of course not all.

My thought of a girl is fashionable without over-branding, takes 45 minutes to get ready, and has a light dusting of make-up at most.

The Way she acts:  The amount of drink a girl has can be a factor, if she does get drunk and doesn’t have control you wouldn’t want to date her. Think about whether you could sleep at night if she was out with her friends doing this! She should like the club for dancing, being sociable, but not the bad aspects that lead to the usual party girl.

 Sociable:Interactions with Men The rule here is that the harder to get she is, the better she will be for you. You want a girl to be fussy. If she will let any guy:-Buy her a drink. – Dance with her. – Talk to her for more than a minute then she has the potential to cheat on you. When you approach, it would be better if she didn’t open up to you or kiss you until you had a connection, something unique that she couldn’t have with just any guy.I hope this helps you find the right kind of girl. Remember, if you are looking for a good time, the party girls characteristics will be in tomorrows Blog, but until then…

Take care of yourself and each other.

-Trell